Across the street, in the noir
Tall grass field which smells like straw.
Quick, bring a homemade jam jar.
We’ll trap the lightning bugs
Yellow, Green, pale red.
As I sat in the rented car across the street from my childhood home, I remembered how I had cleverly disguised the real purpose for asking my employer to pay for my travel and attendance at a telecommunications course just outside of New York City. My true purpose was to meet my younger sister and bury the ashes of my mother at my father’s gravesite I had not visited in over 20 years. I had carefully attended to all the details of having the grave opened. I even had written on a scrap of paper an idea for a graveside service. Yet now, after all that careful planning, I found my thoughts inchoate. I stared at my childhood home with that thousand mile away look of PTSD sufferers. It was now owned by someone else who did not know I had grown up in that house.
I had poorly exposed snapshots in my memory. The camera flash had not quite worked well and the images were too dark. I remembered sleeping in the twin bed in the room I slept in with my father. Before sleep, I would remember staring out at the dark pine trees in the back of the house. They always gave me a sense of an unknown that was somewhat frightening. Adulthood maybe. Why my father slept in our room in the second twin bed had been unknown to me. It was a fact, but confusing. My mother slept in her room with my younger sister. Only later in life, would I hear stories from my sisters of the painful and scary birth of my younger sister; Dad’s banishment to the other bedroom. Fear of another, maybe life-threatening pregnancy. Roman Catholic Birth Control. Was that the sum of all reasons? My sisters tell stories now my Dad protested, was sad and angry.
My father was a photographer, and quite a good one. He was known for his sharp focus, deep depth of field, and uniform exposure. He preferred a mirror finish on his prints. All surfaces in the house were usually covered by glossy black and white 8”x10”s. So I grew up with an expectation of clarity in photographic images. Remembering in pictures was a given.
Yet, now as I stared across the street at my old childhood home I couldn’t precisely recall what I traveled across the country and 35 years to recall. Too many indistinct memories. Indeed, I could not summon the courage to walk up to the front door, introduce myself as the aging younger boy who grew up here. While I had some of my father’s clear eyed photographs back home on the West Coast, why and how his and my life unfurled in this place was not exposed in the pictures.
-written in response to
The Daily Post Challenge by Krista Stevens: Inchoate